A Cinderella Story
It is said that a real mature true love has to go through four periods: codependent, counterdependent, independent and interdependent. The time needed in period transaction is discriminated in different relationships.
The first period is codependent. It's a time when two people get passion together. They want be together in every second.
The second is counterdependent. When the relationship get stable, at least one of the two want more time to do something personal. Then the other one feel being absent treated.
The third one is independent, which is subsequent to the second period. People in this period demand more self-governed time.
The last is interdependent. Till then, the new way of mixing in is shaped. He (or she) has become your closest person. You're together to support each other, create lives belonging to you. You won't get in each other's way, but both grow up.
The theory really means something. I'm sad to find that I hadn't break through the first period when he already got the third one. I always thought it was me going too far. But the truth is I didn't catch up with him.
Two people who love each other at first still need working on the relationship, not necessarily having a happy ending. That's why all fairy tales always end at the beginning of a relationship which is the most splendid moment.
The first period is codependent. It's a time when two people get passion together. They want be together in every second.
The second is counterdependent. When the relationship get stable, at least one of the two want more time to do something personal. Then the other one feel being absent treated.
The third one is independent, which is subsequent to the second period. People in this period demand more self-governed time.
The last is interdependent. Till then, the new way of mixing in is shaped. He (or she) has become your closest person. You're together to support each other, create lives belonging to you. You won't get in each other's way, but both grow up.
The theory really means something. I'm sad to find that I hadn't break through the first period when he already got the third one. I always thought it was me going too far. But the truth is I didn't catch up with him.
Two people who love each other at first still need working on the relationship, not necessarily having a happy ending. That's why all fairy tales always end at the beginning of a relationship which is the most splendid moment.
posted by paillarde at 11:37 AM
1 Comments:
wow..it makes me check dictionary to read your commend. Seems you really got a large vocabulary..
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